Overall is the daily living with others in a family, the job, friends, grant parents, babies and pets a very pleasureful happening, and it is for sure worth all the good things of every single individual, to make it better and playful for all the ones, who are living there. Everybody makes a wonderful carrier, has awesome friends, give parties here and there, and the kids make it through the grades and also do not take any dangerous drugs or try to often miss school. It is a pure enjoyment, being involved and live through it, together every day of the year.

This is the absolute best condition, and for sure the dream of everybody, who loves to live in a happy and stable environment.

But there are things happening and unpredicted at any time, where some stress will occur and problems appear, and so people loose their strings. It must not be big. But to whatever happens, a proper way of handling it needs always to be worked out fast. This will occur here and there with everybody in this family. Somebody did not make it through the grades, somebody else threw a football in the big window of a supermarket, the lady of the house is thinking, that her husband has a girlfriend, and the unpaid bills from the son, having no job, are all stacking up over the heads. The longer it takes to handle it, and get it properly fixed, the more worse the situation will grow.

Several of these little or bigger disasters can get handled easily and with a smile, because a real danger did not occur. But there are always situations, which keep on not getting handled and then drag on for a long time. It happens, that nobody likes to talk about it anymore. "It is just how it is", becomes the apathetic frame of mind. But these are the special secrets, which build up lies, heart attacks and are causing sleeplessness. And every other new occuring situation, small or large, will make it even worse.

It is easy to say, "That's how it has always been in an American middle class family". But it isn't, and the mood
of every individual involved drops down more and more and all good feeling from the past are disappeared. Now life becomes a more tough routine of actions. Wake up on time, go shopping, feet the cat, pay your bills, wash the laundry, do your homework, but be also a nice girl, whenever needed.

How can this now get resolved back into a higher state of beingness, where happiness and being playful, can give back the real big pleasure?

It has to get changed right there !

Such a family has to work it out together, and look at all the outpoints of each single individual. Nobody in this moment, should take pills or drink alcohol. And a list of actions has to be written for all the assigned duties, for which individual handles what situation. And if help is needed, it has to be worked out too. This will always become a bit like a serious activity, but will not turn out too bad, because nobody may prevent trying to find and DO the proper handlings for the already known outpoints. Just honesty and participation is needed. All the outpoints are understood, and whatever else is missing, it still can be said.

After such a meeting things may happen, where family members start a bit upsetting each other, because the confront level came up and nobody wants to be the one, getting called the bad guy. But sane people will normally do fine, having the attention on getting it all under control and handled, and can tell about their success to all others. And it should be done a meeting every week, to talk about the progress of things or asking for help. Finally working as a team, everything will turn out fine.

This is the moment, the family re-unions completely back as a team, sticking together as never before and liking each other so much, as it would be a new life and family, one can be really proud of.

But there is still something else, what the family can do, and this is going on a nice vacation to somewhere beautiful in this world. It could be one of the outstanding Beaches in Florida, and in a nice Hotel with good food, enjoying it all together and collecting some new impressions, which can be take home for a long time to remember.